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Post by Rosie The Red on Dec 7, 2010 20:01:24 GMT
You're at college Christina, do what you like! That guy sounds like the one with the problem to be honest, you didn't do anything wrong {as everybody else has said}. And ugly sweaters must be good, they always work for the Weasleys. You could always go see if you can find the H&M sweater in a/the shop to check if it feels horrible and unwashable. If not, you can always find amazing ugly jumpers in vintage/charity shops.
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Post by Rhiflect on Dec 7, 2010 20:37:51 GMT
Also Topman has about 150, I was in there and I wanted every boy I know to be wearing them. Or me, so I could be snuggly.
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Post by newslang on Dec 9, 2010 16:26:38 GMT
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Post by Xteenuh on Dec 12, 2010 8:22:00 GMT
Oh my. So that boy I went home with last weekend... he keeps asking me out 'n stuff Not that this is a bad thing at all, I really like him! I just didn't expect that. For some reason he seemed like the type to just want the drunken hookups like the last guy I did that with did, but instead he seems to be ACTUALLY interested. But this is good, because I am interested too. He is adorable and talented and likes cats and Bowie. Oh boy I love how he has the balls to ask me out! I just worry because he's older. And I feel like this is a big distraction from my schoolwork. But urgh, it is a nice distraction.
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Post by Rhiflect on Dec 15, 2010 20:16:04 GMT
oooh positivity! Good luck gal!
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Post by jay on Dec 16, 2010 14:09:52 GMT
i love being single.
my leg hairs are well long.
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Post by glumbumble on Dec 16, 2010 18:31:09 GMT
+1 (this should go in the confessions thread: I haven't waxed my legs since July)
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Post by jay on Dec 17, 2010 15:22:34 GMT
i'd high five you if i could!
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Post by Rhiflect on Dec 17, 2010 21:49:56 GMT
Ditto, many weeks have passed since I have shaved my legs. Oh, the bliss of thick tights and/or trousers. But this is more winter than singledom.
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Post by Xteenuh on Feb 8, 2011 7:19:59 GMT
Regarding that boy... is it super silly that I worry he's just playing with me?! It's only because he's older and has a history of hookups. But I try to tell myself that there are so many obvious signs that he actually likes me, because, well, there are. It's like... in one respect this casual not-officially-official thing is cool because it's relaxed, and you can have fun without really worrying extensively about this bond that cannot be broken and all these obligations that come with an "official" relationship, but on the other hand, it's like, well... are we technically still free to do this with other people?! I guess we are, but at the same time we're not! Because I know that if he hooked up with some other girl one weekend or whatever, I'd feel pretty hurt for a while. And I don't have any interest in hooking up with any other guys. This relationship "status" is all very confusing and a little anxiety-inducing in a way! It's like being half way between "whatever" makeout buddies and "committed" makeout buddies... a.k.a. a college couple. It's kind of a weird place to be in.
But I don't really know what I WANT. Because it is in my nature to be a very independent person, I think especially right now at this time in my life, and I can tell he's really independent too. But on the other hand, don't we all want a special companion we can always count on to be there?! Can the fact that we both need our own space and can therefore respect that fact about each other actually make a relationship be workable, or would it drive us apart romantically?? I mean, he's graduating this year... come to think of it, in about 12-13 weeks, I won't ever get to see him around school again, and I don't know what his plans are for afterwards. :/
I feel like a giddy 13 year old girl all over again, like a second wave of puberty... it's exciting but also EXTREMELY ANNOYING. Why must love hurt like that?! DAMN CRUSHES!
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Post by choolin firth on Feb 8, 2011 23:18:19 GMT
ARGH! After a much delayed cry on my "boyfriend" last week about how I think he's using me and doesn't care, and his reassurance that this wasn't the case, he STILL doesn't tell me that he can't keep to our plans unless I bring it up. If he's willing to let me go the entire evening wondering if he's ever going to turn up, or think that I'm ok with just waiting around, then it makes his "I'm not using you" point extremely redundant. I've been terrible with this situation for months. I know the fault is almost entirely on his part, but I also know that it's just in my nature to get upset about something that happens for a while and then feel optimistic about it about half an hour later. I was so angry earlier, but after a chat with my flatmate, I felt better and even now I'm wondering whether I was making a fuss over nothing. I know deep down I'm not, and I know deep down that the two of us won't last forever, but who thinks that at my age anyway. I should probably end it, just to let him know that he can't keep treating people this way and getting away with it, but from a selfish point of view, I don't want to, because I know that he's so lazy that he probably would just accept it which would make me feel absolutely worthless. I've just read that last sentence back. I'm such an idiot. Anyone reading this will now think I'm an absoulte fool for sticking by him. It's so difficult
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Post by mynameisHughGrant on Feb 14, 2011 12:33:38 GMT
I'm in a rare Man Avalanche. They all have a big glaring negative each but it doesn't really matter because this never actually happens to me.
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Post by Rosie The Red on Feb 19, 2011 0:18:13 GMT
{Sorry for coming here to share problems again, but I can't tell anybody else I'd normally tell.}
My friend who we shall call Katniss is having a huge crisis because she thinks she might be gay, and she's freaking out about it. I don't know how to help her out, especially because she's trying to convince herself that if she finds a 'real man' {as she puts it} [she broke up with her boyfriend on/off of about two or three years quite badly last... spring? summer?] then she can stop herself being attracted to girls/a girl.
I say 'a girl' because I think what has brought this on is her having feelings for another friend of mine whom we shall call Sky. Katniss has forbidden me from saying anything to Sky {or anybody else... but she was adamant about nothing of this getting back to Sky}. But my {third} friend who we shall call Maria told me something last week - that the reason Sky has begun spending so much time around Katniss recently is because she 'likes' her.
So, as far as we know, each of them likes the other. But each of them is too scared that the other will reject them to say anything, as neither one nor the other is openly gay, or has ever been attracted to a girl before {well, as far as I know}. And I don't want to interfere because I don't know anything for sure, and Katniss in particular is incredibly confused about the idea of liking a girl/being lesbian/bi, so I don't want to push anything.
I guess I just don't know what to do, if anything. >,<
Sorry for the disjointed post, I can't get things straight in my own head let alone written down.
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Post by jadeface on Feb 19, 2011 22:07:09 GMT
I reckon, leave them to it. I'm sure they will work it out, notice things on their own, shyly talk about it if there is any kind of 'moment'. Just reassure your friend it's okay to feel confused, and not to feel like she has to label herself or worry about 'what' she is. Just not to be ashamed of her feelings, and if she likes a lady, tell her, get it out in the open, if she is rejected hopefully everyone is mature enough to just laugh about it.
Good luck.
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Post by Xteenuh on Feb 20, 2011 1:03:29 GMT
I miss my boy-thing. There has not been any time for alone time in the past week and a half and if we're in a social setting we get a little separated by our different friend groups. Not that our groups don't get along, it's just that separately they're more exclusive and it makes real interaction harder, ya know? And I don't wanna just dance and drink with him anymore, I wanna get to know him better. And cuddle, and get naked. I only get to just see him around lately and it's agonizing because when I see him I just wanna reach out and stroke his shaggy hair and nuzzle his cute chin stubbles but I know that I can't. And it makes me saaaad. These said actions need to occur within the next 4 days before I go home for break or else I will leave feeling not reassured of his interest and that will make me more saaaaad. I think that he is still interested... he seems playful with me in that kind of way. But I still worry. I just hate how so many things kinda keep us apart, especially at the end of the school quarter!
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Post by Rhiflect on Feb 20, 2011 1:06:03 GMT
Oh poo poo Christina! Maybe phoning will help? Like, late night phone chats? That's when all the little personal tidbits come out and yeah, I agree with Jade, Rosie. Don't get too het up in thinking about everyone else, all you can do is comfort and slowly encourage and I'm sure you're doing great
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Post by Rosie The Red on Feb 20, 2011 22:36:23 GMT
^Thanks you guys, I'm not going to say anything. I think it's something they'll either work out themselves or move on from, and better that than me saying anything and making it awkward between them or risk their friendship. It's easier to think about after sleeping and seeing them both again, it gave me some more perspective. And that sounds bad, Christina, and I know how you feel. }: Maybe just ask if he wants to go for lunch? Or just anything that would be informal but just the two of you, that way you can talk more and get to know more about him. Hope something works out!
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Post by Xteenuh on Feb 21, 2011 1:49:53 GMT
I would ask him to hang out but the thing is this is the end of our school quarter, and we're film majors, and we have screenings all day running from yesterday to tuesday and then wednesday I'm going home. So, we've both been at screenings with everyone all day, and then there's parties at night. I dunno if he's coming to the party thats tonight... I just want some cuddles before I leave for a week and a half!
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Post by newslang on Feb 22, 2011 3:33:38 GMT
Spoke to my ex for the first time since we broke up. Hmmm.... not as easy as I thought it was going to be. Weird how things change. But it was okay. We can definitely be friends. I think I sounded a bit bitter today, but he seemed to understand. What a great guy
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Post by Xteenuh on Feb 23, 2011 6:25:55 GMT
Meh, I got... "broken up" with, though we were never official. He came to talk to me and said he didn't think we should continue this, as explained himself as being kind of "all over the place", and that he also still had lingering feelings for an ex, who now has a boyfriend but he said there's a "weird love triangle" going on there and he didn't want to lead me on too much and wind up hurting my feelings later if something happened. Basically he didn't want to involve me in his issues, which is good, but it totally sucks that he can't commit, and it makes me feel pretty sad that he didn't feel able to do that for me, but I'm glad he let me know and seems to genuinely care about my feelings. Even though he didn't want to lead me on he kind of did a little bit, he would ask me out and to do things and seemed to wanna get to know me and I started to really like him. It was fun while it was happening and I'm really going to miss the alone times, we can't really do that anymore if we can't be together in that way... we were pretty darn attracted to each other and it would be really sexually tense if we tried to hang out alone as "friends". He said he didn't want to hurt me because I'm a "sweet girl" and he asked if I was going to be okay about it. Which made it a little nicer, but it still sucks a lot. I just can't believe how upset I am about it, I guess I just got attached because he was sort of the first boy I ever experienced a mutual attraction with. I texted him a bit after he left to tell him that I was honestly upset, because I had trouble really showing it when we were talking face to face, but I also let him know I appreciated him seeming to care about my feelings and being a nice guy the whole time. He said he was sorry about what I was feeling right now and said he tries to be a nice guy, but felt that doing this whole thing wasn't the nicest thing to do. I guess he feels bad that he let it go on if he knew he probably couldn't work it out to let things go any further. But we couldn't help our attraction I guess. Hrmmph. But I'm not going to be mad at him, because I know that if he truly just wanted to use me for some action and not care about my emotions, then he would've let it go on until he got into my pants, and then I would've REALLY been led on to believe it was something more. So even though I'm sad, I'm also really really glad he realized this and was enough of a good person to end it and prevent my feelings from being waaayyy more hurt. He always treated me respectfully so I'm grateful for that. I'll just miss things, you know.
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