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Post by allison on Oct 14, 2010 2:22:52 GMT
my roommates hate my new boyfriend. its a drag.
i'm also a bit embarassed to tell people about said new boy being new boyfriend (he was the one to suggest the label) cause its been, like, a week since i broke up with the previous boyfriend. and i always do this - back to back serial monogamy - cause i'm needy and shit. . . and i'm still insecure about it.
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Post by lastgoodbye on Oct 17, 2010 11:13:53 GMT
Eh, I'm not really bothered per se about not being in a relationship.. but where I live, girls tend to get with someone when they're about 15, stay with them, move in with them, have a baby and get married by the time they're 21. So like, my best friend who's the same age as me is engaged and living with her boyfriend of two years, so many girls my age have just had their first (or second...) child. Okay, I really don't envy the child bit. But it just dawned on me today that that next generation of my friends who are about 15/16, now they're all starting this process, too. Like, oh you've met a guy, that's nice, I'll probably be at your wedding in a few years time.... Everyone settles down SO EARLY here I sometimes feel a bit outside of the loop. A couple of failed relationships when I was 15 and since then I haven't even tried
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Post by Lawrence on Oct 17, 2010 12:21:11 GMT
Do those people realise that there's more than just the island? I don't think I'd want to settle down with the first person I met (unless they were amazing) and spend the rest of my life where I grew up. That sounds tragic. Don't worry Flo, you'll be off to uni and life will be exciting!
The girl I like has a best friend, who likes me. I'm not sure what I should do, because if I speak up I could risk our friendship and I don't want things to be awkward between us
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Post by lastgoodbye on Oct 17, 2010 13:04:31 GMT
That's a fair point, Lawrence, I don't think they do realise that.
Also, that situation seems SO awkward :/ I'd like to be able to present you with some really awesome advice, but that's a tricky one.
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Post by Rhiflect on Oct 17, 2010 17:20:50 GMT
Yiikes that sucks. Would the girl be really hysterical if you told her you didn't like her? It's a horrible, horrible feeling but it'll surely be better for her than not knowing/messing up a friendship? It's not her fault you don't like her, and not the girl you likes either? Also, Florence, one of your friends is engaged?!?! That's crazy, that's normal for the island? I think you've probably taken the right path being out of the loop! This isn't really boy/girl relationship trouble, but last night I dreamt about my drama teacher for the THIRD time in about a month?! He's off school ill (it's a mental thing, sadly, maybe bipolar ) and i'm really missing/concerned about him. But it's SO odd. They're not sexy dreams, by the way, just hugging/holding hands. :S :S :S eta: dream total is up for five. WHAT IS GOING ON?!
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Post by franklyimfrances on Oct 25, 2010 20:28:06 GMT
Rhi, your dreams sound strange. I am convinced that you can love people without.. loving them. I hope that hes ok. Missing people you look up to is so hard.
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Post by Rhiflect on Oct 29, 2010 21:08:46 GMT
Annabel, i feel your pain! I'm also now worrying that when that special person comes around, i'm going to be ABLE to love them the best way that I can. What if I do it wrong? I hope our princes come round soon enough, and if not I plan to embrace spinster-dom with full gusto.
Also frances, ta for that, I think that thing about loving people is very true. I'm crossing fingers for a return after half term!
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Post by allison on Nov 1, 2010 17:47:29 GMT
Going through a breakup from HELL but what is troubling me at the moment is new boy's house: it has bedbugs, two of his roomates have staph infections, another one has scabies, and their cats have fleas. Scary shit.
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Post by Rhiflect on Nov 1, 2010 19:20:48 GMT
If ever there was a reason for a break up, it's that. I hope you're alright, and that he finds cleaning products existance soon
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Post by mimicry on Nov 5, 2010 0:36:41 GMT
Going through a breakup from HELL but what is troubling me at the moment is new boy's house: it has bedbugs, two of his roomates have staph infections, another one has scabies, and their cats have fleas. Scary shit. I would never visit! Bed bugs scare me. :x
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Post by Xteenuh on Nov 6, 2010 20:55:52 GMT
I have sort of a... "thing" with this guy. But this "thing" involves drunken make-outs and cuddling. But I do really like him as a person, and I... think he likes me too. But we never see each other while sober... and I have to give him his jacket back... oops.
Also, I need to control my drinking better, I always think I'm doing fine and before you know it I've downed lots of rum or vodka way too quick and then suddenly thereafter I'm on my second beer and am making out with this guy in front of, like, everyone.
OOPSIES :/
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Post by allison on Nov 8, 2010 1:33:52 GMT
^ find an excuse to see him sober. being drunk and in like is cool but for meaningful relationships you've got to sustain beyond that.
so this break up from hell? the ex punched through the glass in our front door last night. THAT IS NOT OK. someone (a person walking down the street) called the cops and i got a restraining order & pressed vandalism charges, and now i'm getting wasted. . . . this is 2 weeks after he beat me and shit. . . . i mean there is a lot more to this story but the point is that every time i try to leave there is some (self imposed) emergeency. i'm tired of this shit, so here tjhis: I HATE JUSTIN.
ok, all is kind of better now.
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Post by Xteenuh on Dec 6, 2010 0:06:03 GMT
I think I might be an attention-whore idiot, or maybe a stupid-ass college freshman or both. I wound up going home with this guy friend of mine last night, after being at a party held at the apartment of the previous guy I mentioned, the one I had sort of a drunken-makeout "thing" going with. Apparently he was kind of pissed, as I would expect him to be, but he didn't seem to be making any effort at all last night to come talk to me! He knew I was there, we said hi, but he was doing his own thing all night. I even tried to go after him myself, I went outside at one point to hang out with him there 'cause I knew he'd be out there smoking. We had normal conversation and it was nice but he just didn't seem like he was really trying for, you know, more. I guess I expected more, I mean we were at his own apartment at his own party! I went inside to use the bathroom then, but when I came out I ended up dancing with the other guy, things got heavy and I never made it back outside to talk to him. I feel bad because I hurt his feelings, but at the same time he wasn't seeming to make an effort, unless I'm just impatient. And it's not like we're in this commitment or whatever, it's all just for fun... but I feel horrible if he feels rejected. The thing with the other guy was so unexpected... we just hit it off well, so, yeah, I went with it. I just can't decide if it would have been more of a "right" thing to do to have let go of my attraction for the guy I went home with and focused on the first guy all night? I feel like maybe I was selfish and inconsiderate, but I don't know. Someone please tell me straight up if I was wrong or right or what, and WHAT DO I DO NOW? I'm just worried about my future relationship with the first guy, I want to be his friend and I hope he doesn't hate me now I am also worried if I am just going to end up making out with like, everybody and causing all sorts of problems. Boys never liked me before I came to college and now I'm just going overboard. In conclusion I FUCKED UP REAL BAD
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Post by lastgoodbye on Dec 6, 2010 7:26:44 GMT
I don't think the first guy has any valid reason to be mad at you, given what you've said. He might be a bit mad at himself I think you just have to think about which guy you actually like the most, and then go from there. (or if you aren't sure about either of them, just keep on partying).
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Post by Xteenuh on Dec 6, 2010 14:28:44 GMT
Yeah, I kinda sent him a freaked-out apology message because MY FRIENDS HERE OBVIOUSLY DON'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT HOW THIS STUFF WORKS and made me feel worse about the situation, saying it was a "bitch move" and shit like that. He replied saying it was all good, so now I look like an idiot BUT at least I know now that everything is a-okay! He probably WAS mad at himself, maybe a little bit at the guy I went home with too. I just thought way too much about it. He's cool though so it's all good. I think the general consensus for now is "keep on partying".
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Post by newslang on Dec 6, 2010 20:17:55 GMT
It wasn't a bitch move! He could have made an effort to talk to you that night. College is supposed to be fun! Also, if he really likes you (he probably does) he'll make an effort to hang out with you the next time you see him In my boy trouble, I don't know what to get the boy for Christmas. A sweater? Is that too boring? Ugh - so difficult. On the plus, I'm pretty sure he has no clue what to get me. We're both hard to buy for haha
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Post by Rhiflect on Dec 6, 2010 21:12:55 GMT
Get him something completely random and irrelevant. Like, um, roller blades! ... I'm not a great present buyer. Xteeenuh, that guy sounds like a douche. How were you to know what to do when he didn't even talk to you? What a weiner. You are in the right, don't go anywhere unless you really like him
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Post by Xteenuh on Dec 6, 2010 22:10:31 GMT
GOOD i'm glad you guys think this was okay! Because that's what I initially thought in the moment, I mean it's not like a owed anyone special promises or anything! Everyone involved was single and just having fun! It's just that the next day a couple of my friends were telling me he was pissed and thought it wasn't a nice thing for me to do, so then I FREAKED and sent him that damn apology message, but he was really cool and understanding and everything and doesn't think what I did was wrong and so I am just silly for freaking out hahaha. OH MAN yay for figuring out how this kind of thing works the hard way! At least I'm learning something while I'm here, right?
I think the thing that's bothering me the most about my recent adventures is that my closest friend here keeps trying to hint at the fact that I'd be better off if I "controlled myself" because I think he has this weird notion that everyone I hook up with at these parties is going to try to pursue me in a more serious way afterward or I will, and thus problems will arise. So by saying that he makes me feel kinda bad about it, and makes me re-think everything unnecessarily, when in reality its all just casual fun and there's nothing wrong with it at all. I don't think he gets that entirely. I mean I tried to ask him about what to do about this situation when I was confused about it and he was like "can't you just control yourself?!" Excuse me, but FUCK THAT! I'VE CONTROLLED MYSELF FOR ALMOST 19 YEARS! THE MAN ACTION IS FINALLY AVAILABLE, COME TO MAMA!
But I'm just so glad I don't have to stress about anything anymore and that none of this is too awkward AND, I CAN MAKE OUT WITH WHOEVER I WANT
p.s. Victoria I believe you should get your boyfriend not just a sweater, but an UGLY SWEATER.
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Post by lastgoodbye on Dec 6, 2010 22:40:24 GMT
Christina, don't you let ANYONE tell you to "control yourself", especially not a male friend, urgh. Keep on partying!
And I wholeheartedly agree on the ugly sweater front.
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Post by newslang on Dec 7, 2010 1:22:15 GMT
p.s. Victoria I believe you should get your boyfriend not just a sweater, but an UGLY SWEATER. HA HA but what if he insists on wearing it when we go out?! I saw a really nice looking sweater at H&M (online) with professor elbow patches (he's a teacher of sorts) but the $20 price tag makes me think it's probably some horrible synthetic material that will shrink the first time you wash it haha
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