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Post by jay on Mar 25, 2010 17:17:00 GMT
what florence said is true but boys are sexually mature (as in, able to produce sperm/ejaculate that could impregnate) a fair bit earlier than girls are sexually mature (as in having a period). the latter point is changing in recent years though, i started my period when i was 15 and i know girls know who started when they were 9. just depends i suppose.
that isn't to say being sexually mature means that you should go and have sex, of course! i think it should be a nice middle ground between biological, physical and psychological sexuality.
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Post by izzyplastic on Mar 25, 2010 17:20:49 GMT
^ lol you can't remember? um...it was like 9 years ago, and it's all a bit hazy due to the amount of alcohol/one night stands i've had since then...all said while desperately trying to not sound like a slut and failing rather miserably.
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Post by wakefromthysleep on Mar 25, 2010 17:39:59 GMT
i started my period when i was 15 I was 12.. or 13? not sure. Anyway it was just horrible! You want to hear the story?
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Post by jay on Mar 25, 2010 17:41:54 GMT
isn't it always horrible? lol. i actually wasn't that surprised by mine cos i was the last of all my friends to get it but it was the one day i went to my grandma's after school and i had NOTHING. go on, tell me! hope the boys on here aren't opposed to this kind of talk...
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Post by husbandwifeheroin on Mar 25, 2010 19:20:04 GMT
Just to butt in but, I got told it was a drop of blood. A DROP. 10 year old me was horrified and I don't think I've ever got over it.
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Post by jadeface on Mar 25, 2010 19:22:03 GMT
Hahaha, a drop. I think I had mine at around 12. My mum told me all about it when I was really young.
This was because her mum (my nan) didn't tell her about it at all. I think she was quite 'embarassed' by things like that. But my mum was worried sick when she started bleeding. Imagine not knowing what it was.
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Post by husbandwifeheroin on Mar 25, 2010 20:05:24 GMT
That would terrify me. Gosh.
Also, a girl at school didn't start till well into year 11!
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Post by Jazzy Jeff on Mar 25, 2010 21:30:19 GMT
It makes me really annoyed all the gay sex being illegal stuff. And it's insane about Malaysia and other places, that lesbians can have sex but gays can't-my cousin's gay and lives in actually the most oppressive place in malaysia I've ever been to-he has no chance, he's only told me. One day I'm going to take him to Thailand because I believe they are much more open minded on the mainland.
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Post by lastgoodbye on Mar 25, 2010 21:37:00 GMT
I was angry when I read it, but having a personal perspective like that must make it extra depressing Your poor cousin.
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Post by jadeface on Mar 26, 2010 7:48:04 GMT
It is really unfortunate, that outlook. But my parents generation (on average) are far less accepting of homosexuality. Well, when it's 'rubbed in their faces'. I don't know what that means but I don't agree with them, but they're not evil, this is just how they were raised. I don't think a couple holding hands is rubbing it in their face, but shamefully they do. I think everyone has the right to express themselves in that way. My parents have also said about two men or women snogging each other, and to be honest, I DON'T LIKE SEEING ANYONE SNOG. MEN AND WOMEN, MEN AND MEN, WOMEN AND WOMEN. Little kisses, fine big sloppy wet squelchy ones? No. Haha. Anyway, my parents think it's 'not natural'. Homosexuality totally is, or it wouldn't happen. Part of me think it's a reaction to the world we live in today, somehow. I don't think it's a bad thing at all. But it's crap that people discriminate like that. And part of our generation (whatever I mean by that I'm not sure, our ages are really varied) are either more accepting or super super awful.
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Post by idreamofcherrypies on Mar 26, 2010 9:51:41 GMT
Mine are the same about it not being natural etc etc. Well, Mum is, Dad once told me out of nowhere he's proud of me for being for not being homophobic and narrow minded like he was at my age, which was rather sweet/odd. And it's not like mum ever tries to influence anyone else, she was happy enough when I got tickets for Manchester Pride with friends. That said, she probably wouldn't have kept trying to get Amy to come over and stay sometime if she'd known we'd been going out for six months/a year overall.
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Post by lastgoodbye on Mar 26, 2010 15:36:00 GMT
I've never really thought about it before, but with my parents being that much older (as established in the other thread ) it's unusual and super lucky that they're both totally not homophobic at all. They were really good when my brother came out. If you think about it, we are all really lucky to be born at the time we were. Even if things still aren't perfect by any means, they're drastically better than they were 30 years ago.
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Post by jadeface on Mar 26, 2010 17:51:13 GMT
Definitely. I'm sure if I was gay and told me parents they would learn to accept it, they wouldn't kick me out and disown me or anything.
But yeah older generations can be way more extreme with things. Like without thinking my grandad was ever 'racist', at christmas once, out of nowhere he called the dog a bloomin' p**i. I was like WHAT. Why would you even say that to the dog?
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Post by wakefromthysleep on Mar 26, 2010 20:47:28 GMT
Anyway, my parents think it's 'not natural'. my aunt has this opinion on bisexuality. once she said that she really hates people "who can't decide" and that it would "not be normal". (before she said that I really liked her) it happened when I was in a gymnastics club. This was the last time when I wore white shorts.. I've made a picture that illustrates the situation quite well. (yes, I was actually in this position on the uneven bars... That makes it even more embarrassing than just have the white(red..) pants.)
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Post by lastgoodbye on Mar 26, 2010 20:49:32 GMT
Oh man! haha loved the picture though.
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Post by irrelevant on Mar 26, 2010 20:54:06 GMT
that is a truly haunting visualization...
i think i may have to find some way to repress your memories for you so i may never lay my eyes upon it again.
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Post by helwin tins on Mar 26, 2010 21:22:06 GMT
guys, periods and homosexuality really deserve their own thread so they can be discussed in great depth
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Post by husbandwifeheroin on Mar 26, 2010 21:29:02 GMT
guys, periods and homosexuality really deserve their own thread so they can be discussed in great depth Consider one of those two done.
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Post by Tellurium on Mar 28, 2010 16:56:03 GMT
Awww.. Well now that that trains been cut off, I guess I'll just go back to the original question. *mopes*
I was 18. And it was no big deal. It wasn't great or bad. I didn't feel any different after. Which I'm guessing means I was ready for it.
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Post by Tellurium on Mar 28, 2010 17:00:14 GMT
It doesn't look like the definition of virginity has been at all discussed on here though. What arte you all considering it?
I feel that oral sex is sex, and I'm counting that. Penetrative sex only would up my age to 19. But I've never been sympathetic to the view that having a dick shoved in my face isn't sex and I can still be considered all pure and chaste after the fact.
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