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Post by Lanuit on Mar 31, 2010 19:04:12 GMT
I think I might be falling in love at the moment. This is the first serious relationship i've been in so I'm a bit like 'do i or don't i love him?'. He is lovely though:). Sorry, enough of the honeymoon period romantic stuff wolfboard.
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Post by Lawrence on Mar 31, 2010 19:53:59 GMT
i have been three times i'd say. I'm still not completely over the last one even though our relationship ended almost a year ago.
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Post by Rhiflect on Mar 31, 2010 19:56:49 GMT
I don't think so. At least, i'd hope not, because either my feelings have been unrequited or were all mixed up for a while. I hope it comes around soon...
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Post by mimicry on Apr 1, 2010 2:45:29 GMT
Yes. Once. Now.
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Post by victorinox on Apr 1, 2010 4:19:05 GMT
yes. and it's never been of any use to me, i think my heart needs to grow up.
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Post by wanderer on Apr 1, 2010 8:46:11 GMT
I’m guessing ‘once’ because I wouldn’t consider my first two relationships as love, more just ‘convenient’. Since then I have fallen in love, but it’s complicated, because we’re friends, and it’s so off-and-on. Plus he lives so far away we sometimes don’t see each other for weeks on end. Love can change you though, I found that out. Since I met him, in the ‘friends’ times I’ve fallen for other guys, but those didn’t work, they were a case of “have you ever fallen in love (with someone you shouldn’t)” But then, I’m not sure I know what love IS…does anyone?
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Post by lastgoodbye on Apr 1, 2010 14:39:49 GMT
I fell in love with her a few years ago and I thought she at least liked me too. I'm still in love with her but she's getting married (to a man) next week. Ahh this sucks And my answer is 'yes, once'. I'm in no particular hurry to go there again.
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Post by mynameisHughGrant on Apr 2, 2010 0:53:07 GMT
only in a friends way. I do sometimes worry that the best friends I meet are my "soul mates" and nobody will ever really love me wah wah wah
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Post by helwin tins on Apr 2, 2010 15:40:10 GMT
once. i fucked it up.
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Post by jadeface on Apr 2, 2010 15:46:30 GMT
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Post by Jazzy Jeff on Apr 3, 2010 22:03:35 GMT
I thought I was in love with someone for three years but I came to the conclusion that I was just obsessed with them. Or the idea of them. It took me half a year after him getting a girlfriend for me to get over it totally and these days I'm not sure what it was I liked because I hardly knew him at all. I'm totally confused by the idea of love. I know I would always question it if I thought I was in love. I know I get quite obsessed with people but I've never allowed myself to get lost in any emotion to do with other people because I can never help being observant about feeling it. If I thought I was in love I'd be watching myself from a safe distance and would forever stop myself getting too involved. I think the reason I put said attraction down to obsession is because the strongest emotions I have ever felt have been for places and situations and general feelings, and nothing I've felt for a person has ever come close to the feeling of being properly in love with a city or a night or something. It's been things like that that have made me think 'i am in love' and never a person. There is someone who I could say 'I love you' to and fully mean it but it's not what I think being in love is. I have no idea. I have been known to say I don't believe in love. I have heard it explained as 'lust, work and self deception' which for me has no holes in its logic and makes sense. I don't know at all.
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Post by sueme on Apr 10, 2010 18:48:50 GMT
I guess I was never truely in love. There was a crush once that I couldn't get over for about 2 years. But I think I was rather falling for the person I thought he could be and not who he really was as I didn't really know him that well. So that doesn't really count anyway. I had something close to a relationship more than a year ago, but I don't think it was really love. I told him that I loved him but now I think I just liked the idea of having a boyfriend but my feelings weren't close to what I would call love. (Does that sound pathetic. I kind of have the feeling it does...) The biggest problem probably was the distance and that I never met him in person. (I told you, you couldn't really call it a relationship.) What I learned of it is that I seem to need physical contact; I want someone to hold me. (Yeah. I'm hopelessly romantic, even though I'd like to think that I'm not.) But I liked our conversations. He really was someone I could talk to. Maybe that's why I thought I was in love with him. Anyway, I fucked it up by not knowing what I want, so I'll never know if it could have turned into love. And to get back to the real topic: Some years ago I realised that I still have to learn to love. Not any closer to it to this day.
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Post by tarantella on Apr 11, 2010 6:01:52 GMT
I'm in love with one of my best friends. Maybe. It might be just that I love her so intensely that I think I'm in love with her. Either way, she's straight.
Where is the thread for drunk people, I cannot find it. Also, why is it that I am so drunk when it is only 11 PM and I am alone. I'm afraid of this turning into a sad evening. :(
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Post by tarantella on Apr 11, 2010 6:03:32 GMT
Oh yeah, I've fallen in love multiple times. I don't think it's all that interesting, really. It doesn't count for much anyway unless the other person(s) loves you back and you're able to make it work together.
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Post by Lemon Bloody Cola on Apr 11, 2010 16:23:17 GMT
*hugs Tara*
Kiddums, I felt SUCH an intense love for a (male) best friend I met in 2008, I did question it.. which is werid as I'm certain of my sexuality. Kind of vaguely know the big whooosh of confusion you're spinning around in. Don't be forlorn.
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Post by lastgoodbye on Apr 11, 2010 20:12:09 GMT
I'm actually terrified of falling in love, like I don't trust myself. I shouldn't be that tainted already, should I? Bad times.
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Post by Lemon Bloody Cola on Apr 11, 2010 22:11:05 GMT
Is it weird, that despite all my past realtionships being devastatingly hurtful, I don't have that "tainted" once-bitten-twice-shy thing? I think I'd jump into any prospective thing with the same emotionally gung-go nature that's lead me to the shit pit on every occasion in the past.
I dunno if that makes me some moron who beats his head against a brick wall for a living or just unaffected and willing to get back on the love-horse.
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Post by sueme on Apr 12, 2010 7:04:59 GMT
Being the romantic (yeah, I never have been really hurt in this love things) I would say it doesn't make you a moron. Just because some people don't care about other people's feelings doesn't mean that everybody is that way. But maybe I'm wrong and we all are uncapeble of having relationships without ending up hurting each other. Haha. I know, I'm beeing really helpfull...
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Post by helwin tins on Apr 12, 2010 10:52:40 GMT
JUMP BACK ON THE LOOVVE HORSE
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Post by Lemon Bloody Cola on Apr 12, 2010 11:41:08 GMT
Nowt I love more than jumping horses, oh yeaaah baby.
I'd take the "glutton for punishment" option Annabel.. no fuck that I prefer the label "interpersonal kamikaze", I'm hardcore.
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