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Post by stentorsrevenge on Jun 20, 2007 22:21:35 GMT
I hate that I have really scarred thighs. I can't go out wearing clothes that might reveal them. Swimming bottoms are a no-no - even if I wanted to go swimming, I'd have to wear boy's trunks; and many of the scars are really raised (the sort that they give you stitches for), so they stand out against fabric anyway. Aw, Clare, I sympathize. I love you so. Do stockings work? There are always fishnets that can breathe in the summer.
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Post by stentorsrevenge on Jun 20, 2007 22:22:14 GMT
I like my eyes when they are not dying from some weird infection/allergy.
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Post by Sorrow By Nature on Jun 20, 2007 22:26:40 GMT
I like my eyes when they are not dying from some weird infection/allergy. We can start the "Eye Infection Club" . How about it? /t
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Post by Rebekah on Jun 20, 2007 22:30:17 GMT
I like my new haircut. Don't look at my face, though, that's terrifying.
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Post by stentorsrevenge on Jun 20, 2007 22:32:28 GMT
I like my eyes when they are not dying from some weird infection/allergy. We can start the "Eye Infection Club" . How about it? /t Oh no! Of course we should have a club! What's wrong with your eyes??
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Post by tesla on Jun 20, 2007 22:34:25 GMT
I look in the mirror today, I for the first time in ages I didn't feel fat and vile. I'm starting to get use to my new more filled out than before self.
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Post by Lauren on Jun 20, 2007 22:38:14 GMT
I like my new haircut. Don't look at my face, though, that's terrifying. Put that in the picture post! You are NOT terrifying.
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Post by Sorrow By Nature on Jun 20, 2007 22:41:35 GMT
We can start the "Eye Infection Club" . How about it? /t Oh no! Of course we should have a club! What's wrong with your eyes?? Well, mostly it's allergy, so if I forget those cheap pills I've got, my eyes get runny and itchy. (I'm not really sure what I'm allergic to though) I also get very red and itchy eyes whenever I catch a cold. /t
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Post by Rebekah on Jun 20, 2007 22:42:47 GMT
I like my new haircut. Don't look at my face, though, that's terrifying. Put that in the picture post! You are NOT terrifying. Am so! I mean, yes mother. Right away.
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Post by stentorsrevenge on Jun 20, 2007 22:47:56 GMT
Oh no! Of course we should have a club! What's wrong with your eyes?? Well, mostly it's allergy, so if I forget those cheap pills I've got, my eyes get runny and itchy. (I'm not really sure what I'm allergic to though) I also get very red and itchy eyes whenever I catch a cold. /t My eyes have been so red and painful lately. They've been like that for over a month! Whenever I put my contact lenses in, they hurt and turn red. So I've adopted the nerd look, and I've been wearing glasses for a month. The doctor thought it was just corneal inflammation, and told me to put my contacts in again. The very day I did that, the redness came back. Now, he thinks I may have developed an allergy to my contact lens solution. I think that's ridiculous. I don't see how I could be suddenly be allergic to solution that I've been using since fifth grade. So, basically, my eyes are in a muddle, and I just want to be able to see again. I'm sorry about your allergies...
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Post by mynameisHughGrant on Jun 20, 2007 23:25:43 GMT
One morning i woke up and one eye was all swollen and sore and erm..painful. and iw as annoyed because i was meant to be going out that night. damn eye.
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Post by stentorsrevenge on Jun 20, 2007 23:27:12 GMT
Yeah! It's terrible. That, but every time I try to put in my lenses.
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Post by obeseguy on Jun 20, 2007 23:29:30 GMT
Ok. So pretty much everyone has a fairly negative view of their own body.
What is it that makes you feel that way about yourself? Why do you think you are unhappy with your body?
Stuff like bullying, "peer pressure", particular events. Society in general? Or is it just what people do, moan about their bodies? Is it just normal and natural to be critical of ourselves?
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Post by mynameisHughGrant on Jun 20, 2007 23:32:34 GMT
well i was bullied when i was wee. i think that kinda has mega-effects on self esteem. like you can completely get over most of the "demons" so to speak and be popular and outgoing etc, but personally i've just been left with bad self esteem as far as body image is concerned. I think it's also comparing myself to other people as well. and as you said, it's natural to criticise yourself for some reason
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Post by Rebekah on Jun 20, 2007 23:36:52 GMT
I was incredibly picked on in middle school. It was absolutely dreadful. I've sort of blocked it all from my memory, but I have absolutely no self-confidence these days.
It never helps to be pimply and slightly overweight around the "POPULAR" kids.
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Post by mynameisHughGrant on Jun 20, 2007 23:41:54 GMT
haha yeah i was slightly overweight for a looong time in an extreme case of "puppyfatz". i don;t think that helped much either.
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Post by blake on Jun 20, 2007 23:44:40 GMT
Ok. So pretty much everyone has a fairly negative view of their own body. What is it that makes you feel that way about yourself? Why do you think you are unhappy with your body? Stuff like bullying, "peer pressure", particular events. Society in general? Or is it just what people do, moan about their bodies? Is it just normal and natural to be critical of ourselves? I think my dislike of my own physical appearance is very logical. "Beauty" is utterly subjective but the fact remains that some people are just intrinsically more attractive to 99% of humanity than others. For example Johnny Depp is empirically more attractive than Johnny Vegas, thats the way it is. I'm aware I'm not an a good looking man, not that no one will ever find my attractive or whatever. I was talking to my therapist the other day and she told me it was a myth the normal people (by "normal people" in this context she meant people who don't suffer from depression) are realistic, she said most people have a level of optimism slightly (if not dramatically) above reality, and that depressed people are often the most realistic of people. I'm not going to walking around and "feel good about myself" and act like I'm good looking, cos to me I would just be deluding myself and setting myself up for a massive fall. I think I have a realistic view of my self. It seems a bit random how to me good looks seem to really enrich peoples lives to a degree, and even give them power, and they're handed out randomly by god or genetics or whatever you believe in.. You just have to make the best of the hand you've got I guess. But its all maddeningly arbitrary.
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Post by Rebekah on Jun 20, 2007 23:45:36 GMT
Of course, the teasing never helped me much, and I wasn't motivated to "get into shape" because what was they point? They still wouldn't like me. So I turned to FOOD. Oh, food, you're my only friend, aren't you?!
I'm so terrible.
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Post by stentorsrevenge on Jun 20, 2007 23:46:51 GMT
Attractiveness can get you anything. It's such a shame, too. Because the most substantial people are the ones who get it without the extra help of beauty.
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Post by mimicry on Jun 21, 2007 0:04:31 GMT
I am probably going to sound like a fucking PSA, but I'll say it anyway: I used to have an absolutely horrid body image. I have never had an eating disorder, but I certainly wasn't very positive about myself at all. I would get near to tears whenever I had to buy jeans, which is really saying something for me because I am not the kind of person who is prone to waterworks. My feelings go straight into a metaphorical bottle. I would really beat myself up about the way clothes fit (or didn't fit). But then one of my friends talked me into taking belly dancing classes with her, and absolutely everything turned around. (I should really be calling its politically correct name, raqs sharqi, but then no one would know what I'm talking about. ) My dance teacher tells this story to we Western women with our body issues, and she heard it from her own dance teacher. her teacher was visiting Egypt, and was taking a cab somewhere. She got into a conversation with the cab driver, and he started talking about Western women. "I don't understand you women," he said, "You all look so beautiful! You see, I think that women are like fruit. There are apples, pears, bananas, oranges, all kinds of fruit, but they all taste delicious!" So not only did I learn to live with myself, but I learned to actually like what my body could do. There was a really skinny girl in my dance class, and none of the moves really seemed to sit right on her frame. Maybe she just didn't practice enough or whatever, but in my experience some of the best dancers have been some of the larger dancers. (All that said, I really do have issues with my skin. Acne, large pores, grossness. Woe, woe.) In conclusion: I'm sure you all taste delicious. In a way that is not creepy, but that is tying back into the story of the Egyptian taxi driver in a humerous manner.
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